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Cake day: April 16th, 2024

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  • Throwing out lots of stuff right now, I am absolutely shocked and disgusted by myself with how much trash I accumulated with such a low long-term value. I’ve switched to that japanese mindset: If it does not bring joy or has actual value, it’s getting removed from my life, either as trash or sold on.

    So would I buy things I want but don’t need (i.e. not daily necessities like food, petrol, etc.) from now on? It highly depends. I will look into renting or borrowing stuff first if possible, then used stuff. Only if those are not an option, I will really REALLY think about where that thing will be in a year from now. If it’s most likely in storage or already binned and will have lost most of its value, I will choose not to shoulder the burden of owning it. There’s nothing to be gained but loss in such a thing.

    On stuff that appears to keep value, boy do you need to evaluate a lot. General rule of thumb: Do you use it almost daily and similar items only slowly lost their value in the last years, consider buying it. Else avoid owning it, reduce cost.

    On Tools, go for a base set of tools and a set of preferably multi-use tools on top. Everything else: Rent it. Why buy that special repair kit you will use once on your car when you can go to a hobby car workshop and just rent that thing? Sure, the rent is gone, but it’s way less than what that repair set would’ve cost you, which you will not sell on until it has lost most of its value, is outdated and whatnot.

    Same for cars. Buy a cheap used one that’s easy to maintain and simply gets you reliably from A to B. Rent a beautiful car once in a while or for long trips. By numbers (including value loss, maintenance, etc.) you will most likely come out cheaper than owning an expensive car - without the risk of high repair costs on it appearing out of nowhere - as long as you keep it down to a few times per year. Something like once per month for a full weekend usually is fine, but this calculation is VERY country specific, so calculate your own total cost of ownership of a nice car and compare it to owning a cheap, easy to repair get-me-around car with occasionally renting really nice cars. Just be realistic with time frames.


  • I managed losing 20kg within a year without major exercise using a combination that fit me. Baseline calories about 2000kcal/day, so restricted to 1300kcal to give me some room for error. Next was switching to Keto, so I could manage hunger a lot better. Next I wrote everything in my food tracker app, often planning my entire day in there. Put the sauces away, found a good low-carb curry ketchup and used that a lot, was also low calories. I made lots of mistakes, often hidden calories, salad sauces, remoulade alternatives that just weren’t, and what hurt the most were sugar alternative products. If you want to lose weight, there is no alternative.

    What helped me get through was adding a “cheat day” every sunday, which was not a sugar cheat day, but one with 2000kcal more in keto stuff (only the basics, not any of these replacement thingies) and some protein puddings which was the only exception.




  • Lots of good advice for possibilities here, but let me take it a step back for you, since you most likely heard those written advice a lot already.

    What you actually need to figure out is why this room mirrors your current inside. This photo tells me the person living there (assuming he did not just move in and set up a base camp to work from) has no need to go beyond basic entertainment, does not value comfort a lot and may live way more inside his head instead of the real world. With no need to expect guests, there’s no need to show others his feelings, so he keeps those inside.

    If that is you, you are at a starting point, not a dead end. Life is a wave. Having big Highs and big Lows is normal. Having small to no Highs and Lows is possible, but not healthy in the long run. I do understand that it feels alright having smoothness ahead, but at the same time it’s so damn meaningless that even something infinitely large like death seems like just another day. Life is not about bringing a perfectly shiny well kept body to your deathbed - it’s about getting there completely burned out, tires squeaking, barely alive, screaming “Wow, that was one hell of an amazing ride!” - It’s the journey, not the stops that you will remember as your best moments in life.

    So what you need to do first is connect to others outside your living area. No need to tell others how you live, just pretend to be interested learning other peoples ways of life to improve your own. It will naturally take a few tries/persons, but at some point it’ll “just click” and you can just do your thing. If inevitably you’ll receive guests, tell them you had to restart your life from scratch or something and have no idea how to live properly and ask for inspiration by those instead of some internet voices you showed a picture. Asking someone you have a connection with works completely different - do not be ashamed or something. BUT: stay open to new ideas!

    It is THEN that you will receive actually good advice how to furnish your own room in a way that you enjoy. Just remember to sell on or bin things that do not spark joy or don’t have value anymore. If possible, be considerate to your environment and enjoy things for what they are in the store first, but refrain from buying them if you think that joy will be gone withing a very short amount of time.


  • 20 years in - you’ll get used to it. Change your employer and find a job that not only pays your bills, but also somewhat fulfills you. Else you’ll definitely burn youself out. Find that niche of yours until you’re 35 and then stay with it.

    Then, those 8 hours a day won’t feel too difficult and you’ll be like, “eh, weekend’s ahead, lets find love in life”. Because ultimately life is about happinesd. If you need to give up way too much time to enjoy life, your job is inefficient at giving you the needs to get happy. So switch your employer or your professsion. Heck I’ve seen student colleagues giving up studying and going for machining. Always smiles with his dirty fingers about how fun things are now for him.

    So yeah, it’s not all about money, it’s about happiness.

    Just stay clear of any form of drugs (including cigarettes, alcohol and sugar). The big problem with drugs is they literally make you happy by stealing your future happiness. You pay that credit back with future happiness and the interests on that credit are insane.