For me it was the fact that I would always be slower than everyone else and I would have to put in twice the effort.

  • Inf_V@kbin.earth
    3·
    2 months ago

    probably that the majority of people are self serving and extremely fake. it’s pretty insane how many “activists” there are that hate the people they supposedly want to protect.

  • NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world
    2·
    2 months ago

    It’s been 9 years, I’m married again (happily), and my ex-wife is never coming back.

    It’s difficult to go from best friends who tell eachother everything, to strangers.

    It took a lot of therapy for me to realize that we both played a part in our marriage ending, and it wasn’t all my fault. But, I also learned in the process that my childhood really screwed me up, and I needed to deal with it, and reconcile with the fact that I didn’t have a loving childhood. The abuse, both verbal, physical, and sexual has had a lasting effect on me as an adult.

    But, most importantly, I learned that I can heal from all of it, and grow as a person.

    I think she’s happy now, and so am I. So even though I still miss her once im a while, I know things worked out for the best.

  • AtariDump@lemmy.world
    2·
    2 months ago

    1. People die unexpectedly. Tell anyone and everyone that you love verbally that you love them (even if it’s man to man). Don’t leave anyone guessing as to how you felt about them.

    2. Not everyone is a friend for life, even if you’ve been friends for 5/10/20/40/80 years.

    3. People change and you can’t control that.

    4. Recording the people you love speaking; preferably while you ask them about their lives. See #1

      • AtariDump@lemmy.world
        1·
        2 months ago

        Yes.

        Not on that level but I’ve lost a friend because we were both a little stubborn. I’ll be the first to admit I didn’t handle the situation well (granted, we were all drunk).

        But, that friend also needs to acknowledge that they too did not handle what happened in the best way and not double down by threatening to sue other friends that were at the event for a orior year’s issue.

        It’s a giant mess. The last thing I told them ~2.6 years ago was that this didn’t have to be a friendship ending event. And here we are; haven’t spoken since then. Some days I miss them and other days I wonder if I’m better off without them and the energy they bring.

  • SomGye@dormi.zone
    2·
    2 months ago

    Realizing that I’ll never be able to achieve any of my previous hopes or “dreams”, it’s too late, and that life is fundamentally uneven and unfair.
    Similarly, realizing there’s no sense of “karma” or balance in real life, it’s just a crutch that people can use to justify or rationalize things.

  • lordnikon@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1·
    2 months ago

    It’s that i won’t be having a long full life like my parents and I will have a much suffering up to my painful death.

  • Zexks@lemmy.world
    1·
    2 months ago

    That an unfortunately large portion of my family are stupid MAGA’ts. I always knew they weren’t exactly tip top in the faculties department but they usually had the right directions. That’s shits completely gone now. Sort of in relation to that. Just how dumb the average level is. The lack of troubleshooting capabilities, the disregard of knowledge, the irrational hate for the ‘other’ the just complete contempt for anyone who doesn’t directly effect you day to day. The schdenfraude from the faceless trump voters is a nice trickle but it’s becoming maddening how much of it there is. I’m finally beginning to understand the need for so much history in school. Unfortunately there is an uncomfortably large portion of the population that simply can’t learn from words and can only understand experience. It almost feels like a hidden great filter.

  • Kurtagag@lemmy.caEnglish
    1·
    2 months ago

    I’ll never be the same again after my brain injury.

    In some ways thats a good thing but Im not 100# sure I’ll get all the walking stuff back exactly

  • Tupper@reddthat.comEnglish
    0·
    2 months ago

    Loss of friendships can be the result of very minor events that triggered someone or were not communicated well. This does not mean that anyone is necessarily “bad” or lacks care for the world. That can be true but it is not always true. The hardest thing to come to terms with is that despite the above in many cases there is no way back to friendship with that person

    • AtariDump@lemmy.world
      1·
      2 months ago

      “Friends come in and out of your life like busboys in a restaurant, did you ever notice that?”

      Stephen King